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Following Jesus Through The Storms
He will lead you safely home
We were in the midst of a winter storm in the Midwest, and I had to drive back from Chicago to my home. It's usually about a 2-hour drive if traffic is good. This day was another story. I started home at around 4:30 and was in rush hour traffic, so I decided to stop and eat dinner. I got back on the road at around 6:00 p.m., 90 miles from home, and snow began to fall.
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The Flood
Finding hope in the storm
Unrelenting and merciless rain pounded around me. I was driving on New Year's Eve, everything I owned piled into my car. I was trying to escape south Louisiana and head north. Hope for a new beginning. Water covered every road I turned on. I was running out of time. It would be dark soon. Desperate, I tried for a shortcut.
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I Love Softball
Listen and learn from your Coach
I love softball. I used to play when I was younger, but now I just like to watch it any chance I get. Recently, the 14-and-under, fast pitch, girl's softball championship was held in my town. One hundred and twenty teams from across the United States descended on our small town to fight it out over a week's time. So, I spent a lot of time out at the softball complex that week.
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Birthday Blues
Learning to serve in the hard times
February 24, 2005, I turned 20. 20 years ago that day I came into the world crying, kicking, and screaming. It was February 24th of 2005 that I found myself in the same patterns as birth.
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Unsafe Christianity
Not for the faint of heart
As a Christian nation, we've forgotten some key things. We choose to ignore the less "nice" parts of Jesus. We'd like to think of Jesus as something warm and fuzzy and safe. In Talladega Nights, Will Farrell's character keeps praying to "Dear, Sweet Baby Jesus" because "that's the 'Jesus' he likes best."
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Dogsitting
A lesson on grace
I used to hate dogs and was scared to death of them. In fact, I once cried when a dachshund barked at me while I was riding my bike (I was 15 years old). So I don't know what possessed me to agree to dogsit for people the entire summer.
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The Year Of ...
Old Year's Revelations
I used to be big on New Year's resolutions. I love the idea of setting goals for myself and trying to keep them until at least February!
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Shoes
Learning to laugh in the midst of sorrow
During the memorial service honoring my brother's life, I looked down and noticed something odd. I was wearing two different shoes. I nearly burst out laughing amid the respectful silence and quiet sobs, not because I didn't care that my brother was gone, or even because I'd accidentally packed two different shoes.
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Silence Will Kill
Finding freedom for victims of abuse
I live a life accompanied by a silent scream that keeps me up at night ... a scream that haunts every step I take, every relationship I attempt to make. Louder, louder, louder — can you hear it?
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Magi Worship
And they bowed down and worshipped him
The story of the Magi, or wise men, is told in the book of Matthew. They followed a star to the Christ child and presented him with gifts. I've heard the story a million times. But the thing I noticed this time was their attitude of worship. Yes, they brought gifts. Yes, they bowed down. Yes, they worshipped. But let me help you see what God showed me.
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Referencing Jesus
Boldness in following Christ
I clearly remember the propaganda posters of my childhood library. They would often employ the image of a girl, face drawn with excitement and disbelief, expressing her attempt to comprehend the galactic biome ballooning from the pages of her open book.
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Do You Think You Need A Filter?
More than words
I used to think I needed a filter. When I would say something really stupid, sinful, hateful, ridiculous (you get the picture) I thought, "I really should have filtered that!"
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Selah
Hearing God speak in the silence
This is what I know: the flight was smooth, the view amazing — bright blue so vast no one could tell the difference between the sky and ocean. The sun still sparkled playfully across the Pacific waves. It was January, but it wasn't cold. Suddenly, an alarm goes off. A may-day call. Then, silence.
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The Harvest
The fields are ready, but the laborers are few
Fall is one of my favorite times of the year. The leaves begin to change, the weather becomes cooler, and football season starts. It's also the time when farmers start bringing in the crops. Here in Illinois, those crops are corn and soybeans.
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Eyes In The Storm
Struggling with God
You're out for a walk and all of a sudden it starts pouring down rain, and you see a big streak of lightning followed by the loudest bang of thunder you've ever heard. This was not supposed to happen. It was not in the forecast. Well, you're caught in a storm. What do you do?
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I Hate Change
Honoring God where you are
Most people seem to hate change. I am one of them. There's something in me that rebels when things depart from the way they were, the way I loved it. As far as I can see, there's nothing wrong with hating change.
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Mexico
Searching for hope
The trek across thousands of miles to Mexico was, for me, a quest for hope. In the semester leading up to the trip, I felt too many things crumble beneath me. I saw dreams shatter. A mother with cancer. A faith-wavering father. Love lost. Future dreams altered with God's new plan and new path presented before me. So maybe I went to Mexico seeking hope that I could forget all the things I couldn't leave behind.
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Reality Every After (Part 3)
Advice on getting married
In the past couple of months, I've given you my quick bullet points of "big sister advice on getting married." In August, I pointed out that it is not your husband's job to make you happy, and in September I espoused the idea that character attracts character. In this article, I want to address my last piece of advice for this trilogy, and I find that it is really more of a question: Can you encourage and help your husband until death? You are right to give pause here ...
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Grief
A taste of Christ's suffering
In a state of grief, do you choose to deny the reality of the situation, or do you face it head on, like a bull running for a red cape? I like to think that I face it head on, come face-to-face with the grim and ugly truth of the fallen world that we've inherited: that through man's sin, this tragedy of mine has happened. But I feel that I am weak, in a state of denial, in fact.
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"Gay"
Brother Tells Homophobic Sister He's Gay: A Story of God's Grace
"Please don't think I'm disgusting. Please don't hate me ... I'm gay." These were the words my younger brother said to me between sobs on the phone one night, just a little over a year ago. Consequently, these were also the words that changed my life. I remember the wave of shock, disbelief, and even grief that swept over me as I waited to hear what words would come tumbling over my numb lips. In a moment like that, when time suddenly stops and a number of questions and doubts whirl around inside of you, God speaks. Here's what came out of my mouth, by the grace of God ... "I love you."
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I Want To Be A Pickle
Who or what defines you?
At the age of three, I had life all figured out. Yes, I realize it may seem hard to believe, but my destiny was set. I knew exactly what I wanted to be "when I grew up," and I was ready to share it with the world ... or at least with my mom and my brother while we were driving down the road.
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Reality Every After (Part 2)
Advice on getting married
Last month, I wrote to you with my first piece of advice on getting married. I have received some great feedback since then and I appreciate the e-mails and curiosity you've shown. This month, I'm giving you my second piece of advice, and it is this ... (drum roll please): character attracts character.
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What Does The Media Say About Sex?
The influence is more powerful than you think
People often underestimate the power of music and its influence over our thoughts and actions. When speaking to students about the media, I often hear them say, "Music doesn't affect me. I just listen to the beat." So I typically retort back, "But does the music that you listen to inspire you to become a better, more loving, kind, intelligent, honest, self-controlled, well-spoken, patient, responsible and respectful person? Or does it inspire ideas that are the opposite of these noble traits, such as rebellion, vulgarity, irresponsibility, anger, violence, disrespect and lack of self-control?"
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Pruning Or Punishing?
Discerning God's purpose for my pain
My husband and I had two beautiful, healthy children and desired to have another child. As we sought God's will, we believed this was His desire for us as well. However, after a whole year of trying to get pregnant, there were still no results. This was a very difficult season of life for me, and I continually questioned why God was withholding this blessing.
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Reality Every After (Part 1)
Advice on getting married
Okay, okay. I get it. You are a person who thinks pretty regularly about the idea of getting married someday (or perhaps is already engaged to be married). You don't mean to be "one of those women who is obsessed with getting married", but the thought crosses your mind from time to time and you wonder.
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The "Except For" Category
God calls for obedience in every area of your life
I have discovered there are "Except For" categories in my life. There have been times in my life where I have
said 'I know scripture is the authority in my life ... I will obey it ... EXCEPT FOR (fill in the blank).' And
at that point I tell God to be silent and forfeit His blessing.
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Woman's Best Friend
Passing on God's comfort
I had just taken our yellow lab Tucker to the vet for a regular check-up, and at eleven years old he was still
in very good health. Over the next couple of weeks, however, he began to quickly decline, becoming lethargic
and not eating well. By the end of three weeks, he was looking very thin and could hardly get up. I actually
had to pick him up and carry him into the vet.
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A Broken Scale And A Revelation
Are idols weighing you down?
How many times must my bathroom scale break before I get it? Evidently three times. I've had three scales break
in a relatively short amount of time. The Holy Spirit is consistent, and I'm slow. Last semester, He spoke
clearly to me through my broken scale. I finally listened. I don't need to weigh myself on a consistent basis.
My weight can be an idol for me. Don't you love putting your junk out on the internet for the world to read?
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Waiting For "That Moment" To Happen
And so, I press on
Do you ever wait for that moment to happen? That moment where it all makes sense? That moment where life
comes to a standstill, the movie wraps up, all is forgiven, all lessons are learned? That moment where you,
the afflicted one, are justified in your struggles and are now ready to take it all on, 100% fulfilled,
knowledgeable, wise and perfect?
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Defining Beauty
Whose standard do I try to live up to?
Flip through the most recent Cosmo magazine and you're likely to find pictures of skin bearing
women, thin bodies, perfect breasts, and beautiful faces. They all have long slender legs and the look
on their faces screams sex. Being a woman, it's hard not to compare yourself to these flawless images. We
want to torture our bodies to look as thin as them.
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My new friend, Respect.
Finding balance in a diet-obsessed culture
Summer is a time when I re-evaluate my health. It's beautiful outside, so exercise is without excuse, and
there are farmers markets bursting with colorful goodness for our kitchen. But as ideal as that sounds,
I still struggle with figuring out what to do (and not do) to keep myself healthy in this "Are you bikini
ready?" obsessed culture.
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Secret Message
Why pray to a God who knows everything?
Yesterday my five year old little girl, Carrie, was sitting at the table coloring with some crayons. She
looked up at me and asked, "Mommy, how do you spell, 'I am going to hug you'?"
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Swimming Up Stream
The "Safe Sex" Myth
"Free condoms, free pizza" was the chant echoed through the hallway as I walked into a dorm at a local
university. I was there to speak on the topic of STDs, but it was at that moment that I realized I really
had no idea what I was up against.
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Marinating
The process of becoming like Christ
And thus the Lord spoketh to the weeping Audra, and said "Hey ... chill, lady. You're marinating."
Marination, also known as marinating, is the process of soaking foods in a seasoned, often acidic
liquid before cooking. It is commonly used to flavor foods and to tenderize tougher cuts of meat ...
The process may last seconds or days. (wikipedia.org)
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Fig Newtons & Safe Havens
Bringing peace to a stressed out world
Grocery stores across America consider Fig Newtons to be "cookies." I know this because despite my
objections as to their "cookie" appeal, you can only find Fig Newtons in the cookie aisle of any grocery
store. They are always there ... packaged as to not necessarily draw your attention and priced so
affordably you almost miss them. I don't know many people who are into eating Fig Newtons, but seeing a
package of them brings back such fond memories of my childhood that it makes me want to buy every package
I can get my hands on. You see, my grandmother first introduced me to the "safe haven" of a Fig Newton.
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"Marked for Life"...Indeed
Finding healing after facing tragedy
Several months ago, my husband and I had the unique opportunity to host in our home the touring band,
Casting Pearls, and a Columbine tragedy survivor, Crystal Woodman Miller. Crystal was traveling
with Casting Pearls to give her testimony to various audiences across our nation at the time.
Over chips and queso, she shared with us her story and gave us a copy of her book, "Marked for Life." I
was awestruck by how she had processed the tragedy she experienced. She was very open and real about how
hard it had been to deal with what had happened.
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To Seek Or Not To Seek
First seek the counsel of the Lord. (1 Kings 22:5)
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed. (Proverbs 15:22)
Verses like this encourage us to seek the counsel of others when making plans in our lives. However, in
my own life, there have been a few occasions when I felt like wise counsel confused the issue and did not
line up with what I believed God was leading me to do.
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Pitching Tents
This earth is not our home
In the last thirteen years, my husband and I have lived in nine different homes in three different states.
The more we've moved, the more I've learned to hold on loosely to the things of this earth. This last move
in particular, I identified more with the reality that we are just "aliens and strangers" in this world
(1 Peter 2:11). Our "homes" here are temporary dwellings, tents that we pitch along this journey on our way
to our permanent, eternal home.
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Who Am I?
Overcoming an identity crisis
I was born small (5lbs.4oz) and stayed that way. At age 23, I still get confused with middle schoolers. I'm
obsessed with exercising, mostly because I want to stay small. You see, I have an identity – people
consistently tell me I'm the smallest person they know.
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Forgiveness Takes Time
And Healing is Possible
I hear people speak of forgiveness all the time and how it's so difficult to forgive. They talk about how
they could never forgive someone for this or that, or simply that they've tried time and time again to forgive
a certain something, but just can't let it go. But how can we expect to be forgiven if we don't offer it
ourselves? When we're hurt, it takes time to be able to offer the gift of forgiveness, to wish that person well,
but we must do so.
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The Good, The Bad, And The Truth Of The Matter
Cancer
One small word brings so many thoughts, fears, and uncertainties. Even though my husband and I had
grandparents who had dealt with it, cancer was never something we expected to face — at least not
while we were in our 20s. Life took a very unexpected turn, though, and I found myself in a hospital waiting
room listening to a doctor report to me on my husband's emergency surgery.
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Passion '07
Getting to know you ...
The last MANY January Firsts have been ... um ..."medium." In fact, I can't actually remember a really
phenomenal New Year's Day. New Year's Eve is a great time, but New Year's Day has pretty much just amounted
to a lot of sleep ... maybe some snow. So, needless to say, I was really looking forward to starting this
year as a volunteer at Passion '07. I was excited to actually get to "meet you" (or at least your
contemporaries) to see if you matched the impression I had of you.
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Back On The Spinning Wheel
Perfecting Our Imperfections
Why is it that as Christians, we tend to have such a hard time getting back up when we fall? We think we've
fallen so far that there's no way we can get back up. I mean, of course we "know" that God can forgive us
and we "know" that He will, or at least we've been told that. But do we really believe it?
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Blue Icing Is Better
Making choices based on God's wisdom
Forrest Gump said that "life is like a box of chocolates." I know there's a deep analogy to be drawn from this
statement, but I can't help thinking if life were a "box of cupcakes covered in blue icing," how truly awesome
that would be. The "awesome" part being, for me, the blue icing.
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Snow Day
Feeling the warmth of our Father's embrace
Snow day on Friday. The snow fresh on the ground, the ice on the trees as the sun glistens down on them.
I'm partial to fall, but this time of year is beautiful as well. I love snowy nights and seeing how beautiful
the moon looks on the trees. Last night I was reminded of a time I feel like I should share.
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You Again
The moment I decide to do good, sin is there to trip me up. (Romans 7)
At my core, I believe that redemption and renewal are possible ... for others and for myself. Very often,
though, they don't really FEEL possible. Recently I've been visited by an old sin, one that I thought I
had kicked, to be honest. When I first started sensing the comfortable tug of its appeal I shrugged it
off (after all, my particular "sin of choice" isn't inherently bad), but in short order the tug grew more
insistent, and I was intrigued ... drawn in.
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Playing Favorites
There are no levels in Christianity
To me a revelation is not only a way in which God reveals Himself to us in a distinctive way, but it's
probably the way in which I feel closest to Him. It's as if He and I are sitting at a small, round, wooden
table with one of those plastic vases in the middle that has all of those fake flowers poking out of it,
drinking water with lemon and discussing Christianity and myself and how the two correspond. As Donald
Miller puts it, it's as if we're "talking on the phone" or something — like we're that close,
breathing the same air.
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The Utility Of Art
After silence, that which comes closest to expressing the inexpressible is music. -Aldous Huxley
I often wrestle with the practicality of music — specifically, the utility of songwriting. A song
never washed the dishes. A lyric never tied my shoes. A melody never paid the bills (for me, anyway). What
is it about music that keeps drawing me to ponder, pray, dream, and write?
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Locks Of Love
God can turn any obstacle into an opportunity to show His love
I've heard of phantom limbs before. After giving at least ten inches of my hair away (I wouldn't let the
stylist tell me exactly how much she cut off), I had phantom hair for days.
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Seasons Of Change
God can turn any obstacle into an opportunity to show His love
It seems there's something special and unique about each season of the year, but fall has to be my
favorite. I find it odd that I love this season so much, because it's so full of change, and I will be
the first to admit that change is not something I'm too crazy about.
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Electricity
Can't live without it, can't live ... without it!
The problem with getting used to something — to anything in life — is that we forget that
it's there. Then, when it's gone, we're surprised. A few months ago my city was hit with a major storm,
knocking out power to over 500,000 people. We, as luck would have it, were among those suddenly without
power, and I had a very rude awakening: I like electricity.
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Holiday Expectations
Clear communication is essential in relationships
Holidays have always been a big deal in my family. We celebrate everything. Sure, most
people do things for Christmas and birthdays, but we're different. Easter, Valentine's Day, St.
Patrick's Day, Mother's Day, Father's Day, Halloween, Thanksgiving — they're all a reason to
celebrate, and let's be honest, to give gifts. This is the way I grew up.
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I Am Not A Victim
Healing is a process, but with God's help it's possible
For a long time I was filled with resentment and self pity. I told myself that no one knew what it
was like to live my life — no one would ever understand how hard I had it. One day I realized
that I'd become bitter and lonely, hidden behind walls and walls of fear. Let me tell you how it all
started...
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Refined By Fire
God brings beauty from the pain
God works on me through heartbreak. When my heart is broken (or what we call "the grieving process"),
I am left exposed. No shield, no fence, no crap. It's just me — my true self before God. I hate
feeling sick with grief, but I find real comfort with God who knows and loves me. In this time, I
search Him for some kind of purpose for the pain, and I find it in a fire.
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Faux Pas
Don't live to make a good impression on others (Philippians 2:3)
I was reading an interesting post by my friend Nikki on the blog about a sorority that requires its
girls to wear thongs in order to safely avoid the fashion faux pas of visible panty lines. This
bugged me for several reasons, but I'm trying to sort through them to the root of it. I would like
to make a public announcement that I wear underwear, and if you see my panty lines, I'm ever so sorry.
But my secret is out. I will wear a thong when absolutely necessary, but a few hours into it, I'm
down-right unpleasant to be around. They make me grumpy. (That little tid-bit about myself was free
... totally unrelated.)
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Given Much
From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded (Luke 12:48)
I've been thinking about writing this article for quite some time, and like many other things in my
life, it was almost doomed to stay contained in my head. I'm sure you can relate. You get a good idea,
but don't always have the time or resources to make it happen. Well, this article is about how each
of us could make a positive impact on this world if we each made one thing "happen."
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Flushing The Garbage
Lessons from a toilet bowl
I'm very interested in controlling the impression you have of me. I like to believe that I can use
flowery words and dynamic imagery so that you'll think I'm brilliant and witty and that we could be
friends because you're quite brilliant and hilarious as well. Unfortunately, this particular story
will do nothing for the cool, "friend-worthy" impression I'm trying to convey.
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Potluck, No Luck
Dealing with the not-so-great roommate
The temperature on the day I moved into college was approximately equal to the surface of the sun.
To add insult to injury, the elevator to my non-air-conditioned, ninth floor dorm room was in no
condition to accommodate the stuff of 500 women with a six-hour window of move-in time. One trip up
nine flights of stairs shy of a heart attack, my parents dropped off my last load, said goodbye, and
left me.
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Struggles
The battle to overcome secret sins was not meant to be fought alone
Struggles, temptations, strongholds, secret sins...whatever you call them, we all have them. Whether
you're a college student, mother, or minister, you know the reality of those things that you just can't
shake. But God forgives and provides a way for us to overcome those struggles in our lives that we don't
want anyone else to know about.
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Honest Conversations
Praying with the faith of a child
I teach a group of third grade girls once a month at church. They are big fans of crafts, ho-hum about
games, and often not so keen about looking up their Bible verses. But they are always eager to pray.
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Skin
Why do we ignore the truth in pursuit of temporary satisfaction?
Sunscreen...it's not just an afterthought. Well it totally was an afterthought, but it won't be ever,
EVER again. As I sit here tending to my charred skin after a little event I like to call Sunapalooza
2006, I think it's safe to say I didn't use enough sunscreen. I dread what might have become of my
epidermis if I had skipped sunscreen altogether.
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Beachfront Solitude
Summertime is the right time to soak your feet in sand and surf.
A couple of summers ago two friends and I took a vacation to a secluded island off the Gulf coast.
Our days were simple: watch the waves roll in, walk on the beach, sit in the sun and listen to the
seagulls. At night we gazed at the countless stars and listened to waves crashing on the shore. Our
beach house was modest and void of luxuries; its charm was found solely in its location.
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Fight Like A Man
The Rose Bowl reminds us that men worth waiting for are men with guts.
Maybe my attempts to help the guys in my life have been a bit misdirected, maybe I shouldn't
make them at all, and maybe I should pay more attention to my own faults instead of harping on
guys so much. The other night, though, I saw a glimpse of masculinity that was so beautiful
that I have to talk about it.
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At Home in a Crowd
Passion '06 reminds us that we're never alone when we pursue God's presence
It's easy to feel alone in this world and wonder if you exist to anyone but yourself.
I've felt alone in crowds and while sitting with another person over a cup of coffee.
Our tech-savvy society has perpetuated loneliness by ridding us of the need for
face-to-face contact in order to communicate.
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Merry Christmas from Lily7!
Experience a Peace-Filled Holiday
Let's face it: Christmas should be a time of peace and celebration, but often it's
a little stressful with finals, traveling home and venturing out to the mall for that
last minute Christmas gift. This year we at Lily7 want to encourage you to fully
embrace all the fun and joy of the Christmas season. We pray your Christmas is filled
with good friends, loving family and peaceful celebrations...and a few of our
suggestions for a great holiday season.
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Indescribable Passion
Experiencing a Taste of God's Goodness at Passion '05
I racked my brain for days trying to find a word that would sum up Passion '05 and what
it meant in my life. "Indescribable" is not a very descriptive word I'll admit, but how
do you put into words what one of my friends called "four days of heaven"?
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Back To School
Remember — you're a scholar for life.
Let's face it: learning never stops — it's a life long process. Whether your figuring
out how to add a new play list to your iPod or grappling with a deeper understanding
of what it means to walk in grace and truth, you always have another opportunity to
learn. Read on...
The Beautiful Truth
Outside appearance isn't what truly matters. It's the beauty of the heart that endures.
I put on make-up, buy clothes and follow the fashion trends to define who I am — and to cover up all the hurt,
pain and insecurities. I want to be beautiful and to make everyone around me see that I am beautiful —
and worthy. Read on...
Mirror Image
Who do you see looking back?
Every day, it seems, I find myself more disturbed by her image, yet more needy toward its
presence. My voice wants to shout, as if to wake, or distract the blurred gaze, but more
often it finds an urge to whisper or calm its clouded mirage.
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It's a Long Way Home
Songwriter Ginny Owens takes another step in her soul-baring journey.
I'm never going to be completely comfortable in my own skin. I'm never going to be completely comfortable as
an artist. And that's OK. I think I'm finding comfort in the fact that I'm always going to be slightly
uncomfortable. Read on...
Wanted: Husband at Home?
Sometimes our "wants" in life turn out to be a deeper longing for Christ.
If I wanted a husband because I believed marriage would give me a feeling of home, then where was this need for
a home originating? Did I not feel "at home" with my family or with my friends and roommates at school? Was
this some weird biological clock ticking prematurely? Read on...
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