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What is He Looking For - 4th in a series by Jessica Sheets We talked about what we need to be looking for in a guy; now let’s talk about what a godly guy is looking for in a girl. Now, I realize that I am not a guy. However, I am married to one, and he has been quite informative over the years as I’ve tried to glean a little insight into the mind of the male species. Any guy that is truly seeking to know God more and grow in that relationship is going to want a girl who is doing the same. And there are several things that will be produced in the heart of a woman when she is enjoying her relationship with Him. One of the first qualities that a guy will look for is confidence. How important is it to you to have a boyfriend or to be accepted into the popular sorority? If we are always needing to be in a relationship or trusting in someone, or something, else to make us feel accepted or complete--that is obvious to those who know us well. If we are confident with who we are in Christ and know that He is enough for us, then that is what will pour out to those around us--and it is very attractive to a godly guy. And the flip side of the same coin is humility. While confidence is attractive, cockiness is a turn-off. No one wants to be around someone who thinks she is better (or deserves better) than everybody else. A godly girl will try to put the needs of others above her own because she knows that her friends (and enemies) are just as important to God as she is. I heard a speaker once say that a guy should always look at how a girl gets along with her girlfriends. If she is constantly changing roommates or can’t seem to get along with any other girls, then maybe she needs to think a little less about herself and more about her friends. Guys notice, and there is a lot to be said about we treat and value our friends...and where we put ourselves in relation to those around us. Another quality that guys find attractive is a little mystery. Don’t let on exactly how much you like him; play a little hard to get. If a guy knows that he could "have you" with the snap of his fingers, then it takes some of the fun out of it. Let him wonder a little...guys love a challenge. Now, I’m not saying that you need to mess with his head...don’t tell him one thing one day and something opposite the next. Be consistent and honest with him. But being honest doesn’t mean you need to lay everything on the line during the first date. (Save your darkest secrets for date #2). And don’t be a constant flirt!! Flirting will only attract the wrong guys! In fact, after understanding more about how guys work, I think that most godly guys are going to want to be the one to make the first move. I know that may set us back several decades, but relationships work so much better when they are patterned after the way God designed for them to be. I’m not saying a girl can never initiate something with a guy...never is a strong word, and God has been known to work in ways opposite to my opinions. However, I believe that most girls who flirt around with a guy and eventually end up asking him out do so because they are tired of waiting. Any relationship started because of impatience is never God’s design, and it is most likely doomed to fail. So just sit back and calm down a little. Form a friendship with him. Give him a glance and smile once in a while, and make him wonder what is going on in that pretty little head of yours. Make him work for it...and maybe he’ll appreciate you a little more in the end. Now if you aren’t necessarily looking for a godly guy, then you can flirt and throw yourself all over him. But I promise that will only lead to sorrow down the road. My encouragement to you is to believe that there is a guy out there who is in love with Jesus and wants to treat you like a princess. And he is looking for a godly girl. So don’t miss out on that because you’re so busy acting like the rest of the world. Dare to be different...be the one that makes the guy say, "What is it about that girl?" God is already working in his heart, showing him what kind of girl He wants him to be with. Let Him work in your heart, too. And be patient, trusting that God is making you a woman of godly character that will blow away the other girls. Be the one that reflects the heart of Christ...then you will be exactly what he is looking for.